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08 Mar 10 Mom’s-In-Law Have Their Day

Written by Odeal D’Souza.

Bangalore:

Odd voices of resentment struck a discordant note during the euphoric eve of International Women’s Day celebrations here on Sunday. Aggrieved mothers-in-law and husbands staged a candlelight vigil in protest against the violence allegedly perpetrated by daughters-in-law.

The protestors, belonging to the All India Mother-In-Law Protection Forum, Save Indian Family Foundation and Family Harmony Society, shouted slogans during the protest that lasted for an hour and a half in front of the Gandhi statue on MG Road.

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30 Dec 09 Biological mother or enemy of daughter

In the Indian society “FEMALE FOETICIDE” is a common term. We generally talk of ‘GIRL CHILD HATRED’ among the parents specially a mother craving for a son and not for a daughter. The “GENDER BIAS” starts from this very thinking. A daughter being regarded as a liability by those parents who wish to encash the “MARRAIGE” of their daughter by marrying her in a family from where they can benefit monetarily is very common in the present society even at cost of hiding the shortcomings of the daughter. They want to “USE” her and so train her accordingly. This is the reason why they marry their “NOT SO GOOD” DAUGHTER” in a “RICH AND WELL TO DO FAMILY” from where they can encash money. A section of parents think it is their right to extort money from the in-laws of the daughter to make up for all that they spent on their daughter in natal home. The popular saying “LADKI PARAYA DHAN”, is used by them to make the” paraya  dhan“ of the “SON-In-LAW” (FREE ATM MACHINE) their own by filing false cases of “DOWRY HARASSMENT”, “DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND  MAINTENANCE” with help of the police, the lawyers the judiciary ,and the laws supporting them which can be” MISUSED” for this mission.

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30 Dec 09 The Biased Judiciary

The Judges of courts are sitting on a” Responsible “and “Accountable “position. They have to be “unbiased “and” unprejudiced” in the court proceedings as well as in giving Judgments without any partiality after thoroughly hearing and studying the pros and cons of each case.

Since in the recent past many such laws like the “Section 498A”, ”The Domestic Violence Act “, “Section 125 CrPC”, “Child Custody” etc. are being “Misused” by the greedy and  malicious ”young wives” who on some “False Complaints” and “Concocted Allegations” on their in-laws, harass  a whole family  for their “Personal Scores” or “Monetary” Gains”.

We have surveyed many such cases where the judges are “Biased and Prejudiced” towards the “Husband and his family” and “Over-Protective and Supportive” towards “Adulterous Wives” in passing orders of “Maintenance and Alimony” even knowing that it is a False Case; the judges are reluctant to give judgments in favor of a “Husband” as he is already supposed to be guilty and criminal before being proven one. They think it is their moral and ethical duty to support even ‘Adulterous  Wives” by granting them favors, making adjournments by giving unnecessary dates to drag the case and finally giving a “Judgment” which  is not justified as it is based on the presumption  of  the “Allegations” to be true without the necessity of them being  verified. They are accepted as “Gospel Truth’ from times immemorial.

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02 Dec 09 The Harsh Realities of the Indian Feminists

NCW and WCD:

In the recent past a lot has been said about “Women Empowerment” by the National Commission for Women (NCW) and the Women and Child Development Ministry (WCD) Ministry. But not much has been done in practicality.

The reality:

On Saturday the 21st Nov 2009 a program titled “NAMAK” was telecast on the DD News channel at about 3 P.M. Very strange but true facts have come out in the open. In a remote village of Kutch named “Khargoda” which is ironically called the “WIDOW’S VILLAGE” since in most of the families there are widows living below the poverty line (BPL). Their children are undernourished with no means of proper education and not even provided with the basic necessities of life. The widows find it very difficult to cope with such poverty due to lack of livelihood as they do not get the means to earn a living. Their husbands had died because while working in salt manufacturing industries, by contracting skins diseases and other ailments sans proper treatment. It is miserable to see their pitiable conditions.

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13 Nov 09 Old woman bitten by daughter-in-law

Greater Noida, April 5, 2005
In a weird incident, during a proverbial argument between a mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law, the latter is reported to have beaten up and bitten her mother-in-law. A case has been registered against the daughter-in-law in Kasna police station on the complaint of the mother-in-law.

According to reports, Vijaya Kapoor, the victim, lives in Tata Authority Officers’ enclave in Sector Beeta with her husband and employed as an officer in another company. Their son and daughter-in-law live in Faridabad, and they had come to Sector Beeta to meet their in-laws.

About two days ago, Vijaya Kapoor had come to Sector Beeta. On Sunday, both the them clashed on some point and the argument lead to fisticuffs and exchange of blows between the two women. While both the women were rolling, daughter-in-law bit her mother-in-law sinking her teeth at various parts on her body. Soon Vijaya Kapoor’s husband reached there on hearing her wife’s shrieks and rescued her from the clutches of the daughter-in-law. After this, Vijaya Kapoor rushed to Kasna police station and lodged a written report against her daughter-in-law. The police have registered a case against the daughter-in-law.

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12 Nov 09 AIMPF in Danik Bhaskar

Danik BHaskar

Danik BHaskar

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11 Nov 09 A twist to the saas-bahu saga

They are looked upon with suspicion, Hindi soaps portray them as scheming, and when you get married, you are advised to fulfill her needs before yours. But in the modern times, tables seem to have turned. It’s the age of the daughter-in-law, rue mothers-in-law, who have come together to form Akhila Karnataka Atheya Rakshana Vedike (Karnataka Mother-in-law Protection Forum), supporting Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF). Over 100 mothers-in-law are a part of this association. “We have come together to fight against our daughters-in-law who have slapped false complaints against families by misusing Sec 498 (a) of the Indian Penal Code,” said Rajeshwari C, President of the Forum.

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11 Nov 09 Debate on misuse of family law

Bengaluru, Nov. 10: Akhila Karnataka Aththeyara Rakshana Vedike (Mothers-in-laws Association) in association with the Save Indian Family Foundation and the Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting will observe the National Family Harmony Day by holding a debate on the misuse of IPC section 498a (cruelty against women by spouses and other family members) in Bengaluru on Thursday. As per the National Crime Record Bureau, 1,23,000 women have been arrested between 2004 and 2007 under section 498a.

However, a report from the Centre for Social Research has revealed that only 2 per cent of such dowry harassment cases receive conviction, implying that the remaining has been victims of legal misuse as well, said Janaki Srinivasan, member of the Akhila Karnataka Aththeyara Rakshana Vedike. Over 200 mothers-in-laws from across the country are expected to take part in the meeting to be held between 2 pm and 5 pm at the Shaneswara Temple Hall at Hanumanthnagar

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11 Nov 09 Akhila Karnataka Aththeyara Rakshana Vedike (Mothers-in-laws Association)

Debate on misuse of family law

 Akhila Karnataka Aththeyara Rakshana Vedike (Mothers-in-laws Association) in association with the Save Indian Family Foundation and the Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting will observe the National Family Harmony Day by holding a debate on the misuse of IPC section 498a (cruelty against women by spouses and other family members) in Bengaluru on Thursday.

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29 Oct 09 India’s Mothers-In-Law Fight Back

BANGALORE — Each week, in a corner of Bangalore’s historic Cubbon Park, a group of men and women gather to swap stories and vent their emotions. They are part of the newly launched All India Mother-in-law Protection Forum.

It is a motley gathering of teachers, retired air force officers, doctors and software engineers, all educated, urban Indians drawn together by a common cause.

They are “victims,” who have banded together to fight the harassment and abuse they say they endure at the hands of the rude, domineering, greedy young women who marry into their families.

A hundred or more members attend these weekly sessions in Bangalore, a trend that sociologists say reflects the breakdown of traditional roles in India’s fast-changing urban society.

“These groups are a response to the growing tensions and ruptures within the established Indian family system,” said professor A. R. Vasavi of the National Institute of Advanced Studies in Bangalore.

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