01 Feb 10 दहेज़ प्रताड़ना प्राविधान: सिक्के का दूसरा पहलु
Article published in the Hindi Bi-Weekly Journal “Grihashobha“.
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29 Oct 09 India’s Mothers-In-Law Fight Back
BANGALORE — Each week, in a corner of Bangalore’s historic Cubbon Park, a group of men and women gather to swap stories and vent their emotions. They are part of the newly launched All India Mother-in-law Protection Forum.
It is a motley gathering of teachers, retired air force officers, doctors and software engineers, all educated, urban Indians drawn together by a common cause.
They are “victims,” who have banded together to fight the harassment and abuse they say they endure at the hands of the rude, domineering, greedy young women who marry into their families.
A hundred or more members attend these weekly sessions in Bangalore, a trend that sociologists say reflects the breakdown of traditional roles in India’s fast-changing urban society.
“These groups are a response to the growing tensions and ruptures within the established Indian family system,” said professor A. R. Vasavi of the National Institute of Advanced Studies in Bangalore.
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19 Oct 09 Kyunki saas apni rights maangti hai
Members of the Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association perform a skit at Public Gardens on Monday.
HYDERABAD: It was a saas drama to the fore at Public Gardens in the city on Monday.
A ‘social forum’ which goes by the amusing nomenclature of Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-Law Protection Association (APMPA) was launched on Monday to protect the rights of harassed mothers-in-law in the State.
The APMPA is the AP chapter of already launched All India Mothers- In-Law protection forum.
Several women, supported by their sons, against whom cases of dowry harassment and domestic violence are pending put in an appearance. The women had a common complaint — the IPC 498 A or the Dowry Harassment Act was being misused by their bahus. Venugopal, a private IT employee against whom one such case is pending said, “In our society, there is a preconceived notion that mothers-in- law are bad. Finding the loopholes in the law, some wives are creating legal terrorism. The IPC 498 A is grossly misused for taking revenge or inciting hatred against the in-laws by the wives. According to statistics, 1,25,000 people are jailed because of complaints filed by daughters-inlaws and 98 per cent of them acquitted at a later stage. This shows how the Act is being manipulated with.” A member of the organisation and a mother-in-law, B Kowsalya shared her ‘bitter experience’. “My third son got married a few years back. After a while, the girl started beating him up and fought with the womenfolk of the house. She filed Sec 498 A against us. My son had to go to the police station frequently and we had to face a lot of mental trauma.” Another mother-in-law joined in to say that she lost her husband because of the “torture” they were subjected to as a result of the complaint filed by their daughter-in-law. She claimed that her daughter-in-law did not want to stay with the in-laws and so filed a police complaint. (more…)
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14 Oct 09 Lauch of AIMPF in Nagpur
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30 Sep 09 Ninety-two-year-old beaten up by family in Mumbai
Mumbai: Ninety-two-year-old Laxmibai Paleja is scarred physically and mentally. The bruises on her face are a stark reminder of the violence that she has been allegedly subjected to by her daughter-in-law Darshana and grandson Vinay. Laxmibai says she has been constantly harassed by the two since her son died of a paralytic attack in December last year.
“My daughter-in-law hit me on my chest and my grandson kicked my face,” an inconsolable Laxmibai said, who lives Darshana and Vinay in Mulund, a Mumbai suburb.
After the battering, she was allegedly dumped at her daughter’s house who then rushed her to a nearby hospital.
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28 Sep 09 The unfortunate mothers-in-law of today
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The Honorable Minister for Law and Justice
Sub: The unfortunate situation of today’s mothers-in-law
Today we are celebrating the Birthday of Mahatma Gandhi in the whole nation. Gandhiji has quoted that. “Our nation will truly be independent when the women our country is free”. But are the women really free? It is paradoxical because in the present day, the “Mothers-in-Law” are “most unfortunate” lot of women especially those who have a daughter-in-law.
Today’s mother-in-law had been dominated by their orthodox mothers-in-law but they’d suffered silently because she was a responsible and caring woman. But now the same mother-in-law suffers the ordeals of a “Daughter-in-Law” who is an “Empowered Woman” because she has the support of 15 laws protecting her, the society, and the whole Government system at her disposal. But the mother-in-law has not a single law for her protection from such daughters-in-law. Even the National Commission for Women (NCW) discriminates in the spirit with which they acknowledge a mother-in-law’s and a daughter-in-law’s complaint. Mothers-in-law are often ignored or at best counseled when they approach the NCW with their grievances but no action is taken against the errant daughter-in-law.
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21 Sep 09 Article in Dainik Ekmat
Article in Dainik Ekmat on AIMPF
I am the one who takes bath the last at home and that is the time when the power switches off; hence I am forced to take bath with cold water. My daughter-in-law purportedly does not keep warm water for me to take bath. I cannot tolerate high sound and it causes trouble to me. Even knowing this, my daughter-in-law keeps the volume of the TV high and hides the remote.
The kids have to go to school in the morning. So after taking out their breakfast, she deliberately adds more salt and chili powder to the food when I will be going to eat it. My son does not understand me because for him the food was anyways good, and instead of believing me, chides me for being complaining.
Knowing I am a diabetic patient, she gives me tea with sugar in front of guests. She alleges me that it is due to my upbringing, her husband i.e. my son is not enthusiastic about making a career or earning more money. Do not play with my kids and do not kiss them as your mouth stinks is what she tells me when I play with my grandchildren. Do not give glasses used by you to my children.
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18 Sep 09 We’re not villains!’ Harassed moms-in-law unite
What’s the punishment for bigamy?
Two mothers-in-law.
Now that’s a joke Neena Dhulia from Bangalore would not be pleased with! You guessed it — she is a mother-in-law. But Neena is also the co-ordinator of the 500-strong All India Mother-in Law Protection Forum (AIMPF).
The Forum was born on September 6 with a loud and clear message: We are not what we have been made out to be in saas-bahu serials.
“Enough is enough,” she says adding, “It is time we too ensured that our voices are heard.”
Neena points out that even though there is a National Commission for Women, it is unfortunate that they don’t listen to the grievances of a mother-in-law with the same enthusiasm that they listen to the complaint of a daughter-in-law. “Why this discrimination?” she asks.
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