01 Feb 10 दहेज़ प्रताड़ना प्राविधान: सिक्के का दूसरा पहलु
Article published in the Hindi Bi-Weekly Journal “Grihashobha“.
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30 Dec 09 Biological mother or enemy of daughter
In the Indian society “FEMALE FOETICIDE” is a common term. We generally talk of ‘GIRL CHILD HATRED’ among the parents specially a mother craving for a son and not for a daughter. The “GENDER BIAS” starts from this very thinking. A daughter being regarded as a liability by those parents who wish to encash the “MARRAIGE” of their daughter by marrying her in a family from where they can benefit monetarily is very common in the present society even at cost of hiding the shortcomings of the daughter. They want to “USE” her and so train her accordingly. This is the reason why they marry their “NOT SO GOOD” DAUGHTER” in a “RICH AND WELL TO DO FAMILY” from where they can encash money. A section of parents think it is their right to extort money from the in-laws of the daughter to make up for all that they spent on their daughter in natal home. The popular saying “LADKI PARAYA DHAN”, is used by them to make the” paraya dhan“ of the “SON-In-LAW” (FREE ATM MACHINE) their own by filing false cases of “DOWRY HARASSMENT”, “DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND MAINTENANCE” with help of the police, the lawyers the judiciary ,and the laws supporting them which can be” MISUSED” for this mission.
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30 Dec 09 The Biased Judiciary
The Judges of courts are sitting on a” Responsible “and “Accountable “position. They have to be “unbiased “and” unprejudiced” in the court proceedings as well as in giving Judgments without any partiality after thoroughly hearing and studying the pros and cons of each case.
Since in the recent past many such laws like the “Section 498A”, ”The Domestic Violence Act “, “Section 125 CrPC”, “Child Custody” etc. are being “Misused” by the greedy and malicious ”young wives” who on some “False Complaints” and “Concocted Allegations” on their in-laws, harass a whole family for their “Personal Scores” or “Monetary” Gains”.
We have surveyed many such cases where the judges are “Biased and Prejudiced” towards the “Husband and his family” and “Over-Protective and Supportive” towards “Adulterous Wives” in passing orders of “Maintenance and Alimony” even knowing that it is a False Case; the judges are reluctant to give judgments in favor of a “Husband” as he is already supposed to be guilty and criminal before being proven one. They think it is their moral and ethical duty to support even ‘Adulterous Wives” by granting them favors, making adjournments by giving unnecessary dates to drag the case and finally giving a “Judgment” which is not justified as it is based on the presumption of the “Allegations” to be true without the necessity of them being verified. They are accepted as “Gospel Truth’ from times immemorial.
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13 Nov 09 Old woman bitten by daughter-in-law
Greater Noida, April 5, 2005
In a weird incident, during a proverbial argument between a mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law, the latter is reported to have beaten up and bitten her mother-in-law. A case has been registered against the daughter-in-law in Kasna police station on the complaint of the mother-in-law.
According to reports, Vijaya Kapoor, the victim, lives in Tata Authority Officers’ enclave in Sector Beeta with her husband and employed as an officer in another company. Their son and daughter-in-law live in Faridabad, and they had come to Sector Beeta to meet their in-laws.
About two days ago, Vijaya Kapoor had come to Sector Beeta. On Sunday, both the them clashed on some point and the argument lead to fisticuffs and exchange of blows between the two women. While both the women were rolling, daughter-in-law bit her mother-in-law sinking her teeth at various parts on her body. Soon Vijaya Kapoor’s husband reached there on hearing her wife’s shrieks and rescued her from the clutches of the daughter-in-law. After this, Vijaya Kapoor rushed to Kasna police station and lodged a written report against her daughter-in-law. The police have registered a case against the daughter-in-law.
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12 Nov 09 AIMPF in Danik Bhaskar
Danik BHaskar
Tags: APMPA, Daughter-in-Law, domestic violence, Government, Indian Family, men, men's rights, mom-in-law, Mother, mother-in-law, Saas, Society, violence against women, Women, Women's Rights
11 Nov 09 A twist to the saas-bahu saga
They are looked upon with suspicion, Hindi soaps portray them as scheming, and when you get married, you are advised to fulfill her needs before yours. But in the modern times, tables seem to have turned. It’s the age of the daughter-in-law, rue mothers-in-law, who have come together to form Akhila Karnataka Atheya Rakshana Vedike (Karnataka Mother-in-law Protection Forum), supporting Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF). Over 100 mothers-in-law are a part of this association. “We have come together to fight against our daughters-in-law who have slapped false complaints against families by misusing Sec 498 (a) of the Indian Penal Code,” said Rajeshwari C, President of the Forum.
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29 Oct 09 India’s Mothers-In-Law Fight Back
BANGALORE — Each week, in a corner of Bangalore’s historic Cubbon Park, a group of men and women gather to swap stories and vent their emotions. They are part of the newly launched All India Mother-in-law Protection Forum.
It is a motley gathering of teachers, retired air force officers, doctors and software engineers, all educated, urban Indians drawn together by a common cause.
They are “victims,” who have banded together to fight the harassment and abuse they say they endure at the hands of the rude, domineering, greedy young women who marry into their families.
A hundred or more members attend these weekly sessions in Bangalore, a trend that sociologists say reflects the breakdown of traditional roles in India’s fast-changing urban society.
“These groups are a response to the growing tensions and ruptures within the established Indian family system,” said professor A. R. Vasavi of the National Institute of Advanced Studies in Bangalore.
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19 Oct 09 Kyunki saas apni rights maangti hai
Members of the Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association perform a skit at Public Gardens on Monday.
HYDERABAD: It was a saas drama to the fore at Public Gardens in the city on Monday.
A ‘social forum’ which goes by the amusing nomenclature of Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-Law Protection Association (APMPA) was launched on Monday to protect the rights of harassed mothers-in-law in the State.
The APMPA is the AP chapter of already launched All India Mothers- In-Law protection forum.
Several women, supported by their sons, against whom cases of dowry harassment and domestic violence are pending put in an appearance. The women had a common complaint — the IPC 498 A or the Dowry Harassment Act was being misused by their bahus. Venugopal, a private IT employee against whom one such case is pending said, “In our society, there is a preconceived notion that mothers-in- law are bad. Finding the loopholes in the law, some wives are creating legal terrorism. The IPC 498 A is grossly misused for taking revenge or inciting hatred against the in-laws by the wives. According to statistics, 1,25,000 people are jailed because of complaints filed by daughters-inlaws and 98 per cent of them acquitted at a later stage. This shows how the Act is being manipulated with.” A member of the organisation and a mother-in-law, B Kowsalya shared her ‘bitter experience’. “My third son got married a few years back. After a while, the girl started beating him up and fought with the womenfolk of the house. She filed Sec 498 A against us. My son had to go to the police station frequently and we had to face a lot of mental trauma.” Another mother-in-law joined in to say that she lost her husband because of the “torture” they were subjected to as a result of the complaint filed by their daughter-in-law. She claimed that her daughter-in-law did not want to stay with the in-laws and so filed a police complaint. (more…)
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08 Sep 09 Moms-in-law run for cover
Mothers-in-law, under the umbrella of All India Mother-in-law Protection Forum, come together to protect themselves against harassment from daughters-in-law
Written by Manasi Paresh Kumar
Harassed mothers-in-law? Though the term sounds like a complete oxymoron, the 50-odd members of the All India Mother-in-law Protection Forum (AIMPF) who gathered at Cubbon Park on Sunday vehemently asserted their victim status.
Most of the women, who were in their late 50s, had the same story to tell. Their daughters-in-law had filed false cases against them and their families and they had no help because the mothers-in-law were the original stereotyped monsters. “Nobody wants to believe the grooms’ family, and the mothers-in-law can be a harassed lot,” said Meena Menon, whose daughter-in-law allegedly demanded Rs 10 lakh to withdraw the dowry case against her family.
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07 Sep 09 We are Victims, not Vamps: Moms-in-law
We are victims, not vamps: Mums-in-law
New Delhi: It’s official. The saas-bahu soaps have got it wrong. Contrary to what reel households portray, mothers-in-law are seldom the villain of the piece in real domestic settings.
The latest round of the National Family Health Survey (NFHS) shows that young women face maximum domestic violence from their own parents rather than in-laws. Armed with the data, over 700 women have joined hands to launch the All-India Mothers-in-law Protection Forum (AIMPF) to break their stereotyping as vamps, and demand protection against violence and abuse by daughters-in-law… (read more)
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