01 Feb 10 दहेज़ प्रताड़ना प्राविधान: सिक्के का दूसरा पहलु
Article published in the Hindi Bi-Weekly Journal “Grihashobha“.
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30 Dec 09 Biological mother or enemy of daughter
In the Indian society “FEMALE FOETICIDE” is a common term. We generally talk of ‘GIRL CHILD HATRED’ among the parents specially a mother craving for a son and not for a daughter. The “GENDER BIAS” starts from this very thinking. A daughter being regarded as a liability by those parents who wish to encash the “MARRAIGE” of their daughter by marrying her in a family from where they can benefit monetarily is very common in the present society even at cost of hiding the shortcomings of the daughter. They want to “USE” her and so train her accordingly. This is the reason why they marry their “NOT SO GOOD” DAUGHTER” in a “RICH AND WELL TO DO FAMILY” from where they can encash money. A section of parents think it is their right to extort money from the in-laws of the daughter to make up for all that they spent on their daughter in natal home. The popular saying “LADKI PARAYA DHAN”, is used by them to make the” paraya dhan“ of the “SON-In-LAW” (FREE ATM MACHINE) their own by filing false cases of “DOWRY HARASSMENT”, “DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND MAINTENANCE” with help of the police, the lawyers the judiciary ,and the laws supporting them which can be” MISUSED” for this mission.
Tags: atm machine, biological mother, biological mothers, crocodile tears, daughters in law, dhan, domestic violence, dowry, false allegations, female foeticide, free atm, gender bias, girl child, harassment case, legal terrorism, Marriage, matrimonial home, mom-in-law, mother-in-law, mothers in law, natal homes, precious years, Society, Women's Rights
30 Dec 09 The Biased Judiciary
The Judges of courts are sitting on a” Responsible “and “Accountable “position. They have to be “unbiased “and” unprejudiced” in the court proceedings as well as in giving Judgments without any partiality after thoroughly hearing and studying the pros and cons of each case.
Since in the recent past many such laws like the “Section 498A”, ”The Domestic Violence Act “, “Section 125 CrPC”, “Child Custody” etc. are being “Misused” by the greedy and malicious ”young wives” who on some “False Complaints” and “Concocted Allegations” on their in-laws, harass a whole family for their “Personal Scores” or “Monetary” Gains”.
We have surveyed many such cases where the judges are “Biased and Prejudiced” towards the “Husband and his family” and “Over-Protective and Supportive” towards “Adulterous Wives” in passing orders of “Maintenance and Alimony” even knowing that it is a False Case; the judges are reluctant to give judgments in favor of a “Husband” as he is already supposed to be guilty and criminal before being proven one. They think it is their moral and ethical duty to support even ‘Adulterous Wives” by granting them favors, making adjournments by giving unnecessary dates to drag the case and finally giving a “Judgment” which is not justified as it is based on the presumption of the “Allegations” to be true without the necessity of them being verified. They are accepted as “Gospel Truth’ from times immemorial.
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02 Dec 09 The Harsh Realities of the Indian Feminists
NCW and WCD:
In the recent past a lot has been said about “Women Empowerment” by the National Commission for Women (NCW) and the Women and Child Development Ministry (WCD) Ministry. But not much has been done in practicality.
The reality:
On Saturday the 21st Nov 2009 a program titled “NAMAK” was telecast on the DD News channel at about 3 P.M. Very strange but true facts have come out in the open. In a remote village of Kutch named “Khargoda” which is ironically called the “WIDOW’S VILLAGE” since in most of the families there are widows living below the poverty line (BPL). Their children are undernourished with no means of proper education and not even provided with the basic necessities of life. The widows find it very difficult to cope with such poverty due to lack of livelihood as they do not get the means to earn a living. Their husbands had died because while working in salt manufacturing industries, by contracting skins diseases and other ailments sans proper treatment. It is miserable to see their pitiable conditions.
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11 Nov 09 A twist to the saas-bahu saga
They are looked upon with suspicion, Hindi soaps portray them as scheming, and when you get married, you are advised to fulfill her needs before yours. But in the modern times, tables seem to have turned. It’s the age of the daughter-in-law, rue mothers-in-law, who have come together to form Akhila Karnataka Atheya Rakshana Vedike (Karnataka Mother-in-law Protection Forum), supporting Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF). Over 100 mothers-in-law are a part of this association. “We have come together to fight against our daughters-in-law who have slapped false complaints against families by misusing Sec 498 (a) of the Indian Penal Code,” said Rajeshwari C, President of the Forum.
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11 Nov 09 Debate on misuse of family law
Bengaluru, Nov. 10: Akhila Karnataka Aththeyara Rakshana Vedike (Mothers-in-laws Association) in association with the Save Indian Family Foundation and the Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting will observe the National Family Harmony Day by holding a debate on the misuse of IPC section 498a (cruelty against women by spouses and other family members) in Bengaluru on Thursday. As per the National Crime Record Bureau, 1,23,000 women have been arrested between 2004 and 2007 under section 498a.
However, a report from the Centre for Social Research has revealed that only 2 per cent of such dowry harassment cases receive conviction, implying that the remaining has been victims of legal misuse as well, said Janaki Srinivasan, member of the Akhila Karnataka Aththeyara Rakshana Vedike. Over 200 mothers-in-laws from across the country are expected to take part in the meeting to be held between 2 pm and 5 pm at the Shaneswara Temple Hall at Hanumanthnagar
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11 Nov 09 Akhila Karnataka Aththeyara Rakshana Vedike (Mothers-in-laws Association)
Debate on misuse of family law
Akhila Karnataka Aththeyara Rakshana Vedike (Mothers-in-laws Association) in association with the Save Indian Family Foundation and the Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting will observe the National Family Harmony Day by holding a debate on the misuse of IPC section 498a (cruelty against women by spouses and other family members) in Bengaluru on Thursday.
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29 Oct 09 India’s Mothers-In-Law Fight Back
BANGALORE — Each week, in a corner of Bangalore’s historic Cubbon Park, a group of men and women gather to swap stories and vent their emotions. They are part of the newly launched All India Mother-in-law Protection Forum.
It is a motley gathering of teachers, retired air force officers, doctors and software engineers, all educated, urban Indians drawn together by a common cause.
They are “victims,” who have banded together to fight the harassment and abuse they say they endure at the hands of the rude, domineering, greedy young women who marry into their families.
A hundred or more members attend these weekly sessions in Bangalore, a trend that sociologists say reflects the breakdown of traditional roles in India’s fast-changing urban society.
“These groups are a response to the growing tensions and ruptures within the established Indian family system,” said professor A. R. Vasavi of the National Institute of Advanced Studies in Bangalore.
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28 Oct 09 ‘HARASSED’ MOTHERS-IN-LAW FORM UNION
In the wake of filing of thousands of criminal cases under the new Domestic Violence Act by the daughters-in-law on flimsy grounds, several ‘harassed’ mothers-in-law have launched Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association (APMPA) to protect the rights and interests of senior women in the state here.
Speaking to media persons here on Sunday, the Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association (APMPA) spokesperson, Ms Padmaja, demanded that the government reform the present “wife-centric” domestic violence law giving equal protection to the mothers-in-law.
The All Forgotten Women Forum president, Ms Uma Challa, said that in the last four years, over 1,23,497 women, most of them being mothers-in-law, were arrested under 498-A IPC alone not for committing any crime under the law, but because they were related to a man.
The famous women’s right activist, Ms Madhu Kishwar, acknowledged the fact that IPC Section 498-A was misused and that a significant number of individuals who approached “Manushi” these days are mothers -in-law and husbands who were falsely accused of marital cruelty and dowry harassment. She said that APMPA would strive towards protection and welfare of such mothers-in-law in distress by creating awareness, giving them moral support and counseling.
The APMPA is the Andhra Pradesh chapter of All India Mothers-in-law Protection Forum, which was launched on September 6 this year at Bengaluru, followed by the launch of local chapters in Delhi, Nagpur, and Lucknow. She said that mothers-in-law were being discriminated against is spite of their generosity just for the sin of giving birth to sons and getting them married and were being forced to part with their earnings, savings and inherited wealth. They were also being thrown out of their own property at the behest of a disgruntled daughter-in-law. The APMPA would appoint president and other members next month, she added.
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