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01 Jun 10 Stuff soaps are made of

Written by Geeta Padmanabhan

For how long will serial writers keep painting mothers-in-law as manipulative, bossy, greedy and territorial? It’s time to get realistic!

Two women at the mall — one says: “My mother-in-law is an angel.” The other says: “You’re lucky. Mine is still alive.”

The “Monster-in-law” and “suffering daughter-in-law” tales were probably true once, but isn’t it time TV serial writers buried them for good?

One suspects the prickly mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship has been carefully nourished by script-writers. Think of it; stereotyping sells — the mother-in-law is manipulative, bossy, greedy and territorial; every word she utters is a poisoned barb; the mere shadow of the daughter-in-law brings out the devil in her; the helpless daughter-in-law, the martyr, puts up with the 24 X 7 abuse. Phew!

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30 May 10 Juggling two mothers-in-law, woman makes off with 50 lakh

saasbahu1.jpgNew Delhi: If you are one of those who feel incomplete without a daily dose of their favourite Saas-Bahu serials on TV, then you must know the confounding nature of the relationship between a daughter-in-law and her mother-in-law.

So when a woman is juggling two mothers-in-law, your sympathies would probably lie with the former. Well, you might reconsider when you hear the rather interesting conduct of this bahu.

Meetu Talwar, a resident of West Delhi, allegedly drugged and robbed her two mothers-in-law off jewellery worth Rs 50 lakh on Friday night. The accused’s husband Nirmohan Singh is a businessman and is currently in the US.

Nirmohan’s father has two wives, Savinder Kaur and Har Kaur; both live with Neetu at A-97, Krishna Park in Tilak Nagar.

On May 14,Meetu Talwar served some mango shake to her mothers-in-law. The elderly women had their fill and went to bed. They woke up next morning at 9 am. (more…)

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15 Mar 10 Daughter-in-law broke my finger, barred me from my home: 80-year-old widow

Colaba resident plans to appeal in HC after lower court rules against her due to lack of evidence

By Ram Parmar

An 80-year-old widow has alleged that her daughter-in-law assaulted her, resulting in a broken finger, and barred her from her own Colaba flat. The widow filed a suit in March 2009, but the judgement went against her. She now plans to appeal in High Court.

Diana Demello, 81, accused her daughter-in-law Carol of throwing her out of her flat in Esperanca building at Colaba in 2004. Since then Diana has been living at Vasai with her 77-year-old maid.

Diana has four children, three settled in US, while a son Darryl is in the Merchant Navy and is married to Carol. Diana’s husband died in the 80s.

How it began

Diana Demello

Diana said trouble began in March 2004, when her 96-year-old mother expired in Goa. When Diana returned from Goa, she was denied entry to her Colaba flat by Carol, who she alleges assaulted her, breaking a finger. “I complained to the Colaba police, but was not pleased with the manner in which they treated the case,” said Diana. “Despite being a senior citizen, I was denied justice.”

As her children were abroad, Diana decided to leave Colaba and stay at Vasai where she had already purchased a flat. “I settled there and informed Darryl about Carol’s behaviour. But the trouble continued.
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09 Mar 10 Women against Women on Women’s Day

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09 Mar 10 Please don’t let the law loose on mothers-in-law

Section 498A is so frequently abused, it should be made bailable
Odeal D’Souza
On the occasion of the 100th International Women’s Day on Monday, a group of women refrained from celebrations. What inspired the protest of the All -India Mother-in-Law Protection Forum? Odeal D’Souza spoke with Nena Dhulia, president of the forum, which also opposes the proposal for 33% reservation of seats in Parliament for women.

Why are you opposing women’s reservation bill?
The problem is with the stubborn old alpha male politicians, not with the Constitution. The bill is likely to do no good to women who are powerless; even a reservation such as the one currently being debated will not assure them of political representation. Until there is greater recognition of their rights and better education of women, this kind of law will make no change. The reservation of seats will enable women from more dominant sections of society to enter Parliament, and they are likely to represent their own groups, rather than women in general.
If the bill becomes a law, it will sabotage the political careers of some able men, who are just as capable of representing women as women themselves. Also, the seats that are reserved are likely to change, so continuous political attachment to one constituency will be marred, whether the candidate is male or female.
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08 Mar 10 Consolidated Media Coverage of AIMPF Nagpur IWD Dharna

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08 Mar 10 Mom’s-In-Law Have Their Day

Written by Odeal D’Souza.

Bangalore:

Odd voices of resentment struck a discordant note during the euphoric eve of International Women’s Day celebrations here on Sunday. Aggrieved mothers-in-law and husbands staged a candlelight vigil in protest against the violence allegedly perpetrated by daughters-in-law.

The protestors, belonging to the All India Mother-In-Law Protection Forum, Save Indian Family Foundation and Family Harmony Society, shouted slogans during the protest that lasted for an hour and a half in front of the Gandhi statue on MG Road.

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08 Mar 10 When bad bahu harasses saas

Mumbai: A magistrates court recently acquitted a man and his aged parents in a case of cruelty to wife under section 498-A of the Indian Penal Code.The court held that the young wife,who made these allegations of cruelty and harassment over dowry,could not substantiate them.

It was a routine trial for the lawyers,but for the mother-in-law charged of abuse and harassment,the acquittal was a vindication of sorts.The 62-year-old woman felt she had come out of a nightmare.She is not alone,many others feel hurt and at the mercy of the legal process once their daughters-in-law or sisters-in-law initiate a criminal case against them under section 498-A.

National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) says that between 2004 and 2007,1.2 lakh women were arrested for an offence under section 498-A,the section many men find draconian,but which aims at preventing torture of helpless wives over dowry.

This Womens Day,a group of women and men have come together as Mothers and Sisters of Husbands against Abuse of Law (MASHAAL) to protest the misuse of section 498-A.The group is part of a local NGO,Indian Family Foundation,which aims tackle the abuse of law.

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06 Mar 10 Consolidated Media Coverage of AIMPF Nagpur IWD Dharna announcement

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04 Dec 09 Full Page Coverage in Kannada Weekly

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