30 Dec 09 Biological mother or enemy of daughter

In the Indian society “FEMALE FOETICIDE” is a common term. We generally talk of ‘GIRL CHILD HATRED’ among the parents specially a mother craving for a son and not for a daughter. The “GENDER BIAS” starts from this very thinking. A daughter being regarded as a liability by those parents who wish to encash the “MARRAIGE” of their daughter by marrying her in a family from where they can benefit monetarily is very common in the present society even at cost of hiding the shortcomings of the daughter. They want to “USE” her and so train her accordingly. This is the reason why they marry their “NOT SO GOOD” DAUGHTER” in a “RICH AND WELL TO DO FAMILY” from where they can encash money. A section of parents think it is their right to extort money from the in-laws of the daughter to make up for all that they spent on their daughter in natal home. The popular saying “LADKI PARAYA DHAN”, is used by them to make the” paraya  dhan“ of the “SON-In-LAW” (FREE ATM MACHINE) their own by filing false cases of “DOWRY HARASSMENT”, “DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND  MAINTENANCE” with help of the police, the lawyers the judiciary ,and the laws supporting them which can be” MISUSED” for this mission.

When a woman goes to a police station with crocodile tears and false allegations it is converted into a “DOWRY HARASSMENT CASE” whatever may be the reason. It is an irony that the Husband and his whole family are harassed for years on for no fault but due to the greed of his in-laws. By the time justice is given it is too late as it has already caused a huge to him and his family-socially, economically, mentally, physically, professionally and morally. The most precious years of his life are wasted and humiliated.

The greedy and malicious mothers and the shameless and manipulative fathers of such  “wives” who want to gain control in the matrimonial home by creating fear in the minds of  the in- laws should be punished for their misdeeds. Such “LEGAL TERRORISM” should stop.

In the third report of ”THE NATIONAL FAMILY HEALTH  SURVEY” it is found  that a woman faces 8 times more violence in her natal home in many ways as being regarded as a burden. She is programmed to hate the in-laws specially the “Mother- in law” and also trained to control the Husband” With attitude and the mindset of becoming “Abusive” in all ways she enters the matrimonial home. Being negative in her behavior from the very start she fails to understand her own incapabilities and the wrong teachings of her parents do not allow her to believe in the goodness of her in-laws or to adjust herself in the new home even though the in-laws may never have ill-treated her or ever complained about her to parents. Such women in order to fulfill their desires with support of parents and relatives file “False Cases” to “Extort” hefty amount from the “Matrimony”. Her demand is “RIGHTS WITHOUT RESPONSIBILITIES AND DUTIES”.

Concluding thought:

पहले माँ बेटी को सिखाती, जहां तेरी डोली जाए, वहां से “अर्थी” उठे
अब माँ बेटी को सिखाये, जहां तेरी डोली जाए, वहां से “अर्थ” उठा ले
आगे माँ बेटी को सिखाएगी, जहां तेरी डोली जाए, वहां सबको उठा ले
अब तू ऐश कर, तेरा कोई कुछ न बिगाड़े

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